As a single parent, how do I help my children who may have future abandonment issues?
Dr. Skinner explains that it may not be possible to completely prevent feelings of abandonment when a parent is no longer present. Children may still experience that sense of loss, and it is not something a single parent can simply take away. However, what يستطيع be done is to build a strong, consistent relationship and help children understand their own strength.
He emphasizes teaching children an important but difficult truth: people will sometimes let us down, even people we love. While this can be painful, it is part of life. Dr. Skinner encourages single parents to make a clear commitment to their children—to be as solid, caring, and present as possible—while acknowledging that perfection is unrealistic.
He stresses focusing on what can be controlled: choosing to be loving, listening, and consistent. By doing so, children learn that they can rely on at least one safe, steady relationship. Dr. Skinner also models honest communication, letting children know that mistakes may happen, but abandonment will not.
Dr. Skinner encourages parents to invite children to give voice to their own experiences and emotions. Rather than seeing themselves as victims of the absent parent’s choices, children can learn to develop internal strength and resilience. This helps them move toward a sense of self that is grounded in personal strength rather than dependence on someone who may not be capable of showing up.
Ultimately, Dr. Skinner emphasizes helping children internalize a sense of identity, worth, and emotional strength—learning who they are and how they want to respond to life’s challenges, even in the face of disappointment.
