What do I do when my child finds comfort in their devices to help them cope with being lonely?
That’s a great question because it’s very easy for children to turn to devices. They provide a quick and convenient escape, and it doesn’t take much effort to spend time on a phone or tablet. However, a device cannot offer what a parent or caregiver can provide.
You bring something unique into your child’s life — conversation, interaction, smiles, eye contact, hugs, and simply your presence. We cannot overlook how powerful human connection is. Basic human needs are met through relationships, touch, shared experiences, and emotional presence.
A device may serve as a coping strategy for loneliness, but parents can gently offer meaningful alternatives. Inviting a child to get ice cream, go for a walk, take a hike, visit the pool, or spend time doing something together creates lasting memories. These shared experiences often become moments children appreciate for the rest of their lives.
Focusing on simple, everyday routines can strengthen connection. For example, when I pick up my son from his lifeguard job, I sometimes ask if he wants to stop for a snack together. During those few minutes, we talk about his experiences, friendships, challenges, and how school is going.
These conversations don’t need to be long. Even short interactions can go a long way in building meaningful and lasting relationships. My hope as a parent is to create a connection where my children feel they can come to me anytime and openly share what they are experiencing.
