How do I help my 17-year-old who has been diagnosed with depression and uses marijuana instead of counseling to cope?
My heart hurts for families in this situation for several reasons. One challenge is that marijuana use has become very common in our culture. In previous generations, society worked hard to reduce cigarette smoking once we understood the health risks. Now, in many ways, we are conducting a social experiment with marijuana, and I worry that the long-term outcomes may not be positive for many young people.
In situations like this, a teen may become dependent on marijuana because they don’t know how to cope without the emotional relief or “high” it provides. Substance use can affect brain pathways, motivation, learning, energy levels, and emotional development. Many of the struggles parents observe are connected to how the substance is influencing the brain and mood.
When a teen reduces or stops using marijuana, withdrawal symptoms often appear. These can include irritability, mood swings, and increased frustration. This is a normal part of dependency and recovery, but it can be difficult for both the teen and the family. There is often a temporary emotional cost as the brain adjusts.
During this period, it can be helpful to introduce positive and healthy alternatives. Activities such as hiking, camping, or spending time in nature can improve mood and reduce reliance on substances. Studies have shown that stepping away from devices and spending time outdoors can positively impact emotional well-being and decrease unhealthy coping behaviors.
Whenever dependency is involved, professional support is essential. Working with a therapist or mental health professional allows families to create a personalized plan that addresses the child’s specific challenges. Together, parents and teens can identify obstacles, clarify desired outcomes, and develop a structured path toward healthier coping strategies and emotional healing.
