How can I, as a mom provide support to my child who, um,
to my child to work through their anger effectively.
So, it sounds like a parent
that is really helping their child navigate anger.
Yeah, so usually anger, uh, as in all emotions,
they come from something.
So if I asked you today to pause and reflect on it, I am feeling,
and then I, and you could finish that.
I'm feeling sad, I'm feeling excited, I'm feeling disgusted,
I'm feeling whatever, frustrated, angry.
Well, there's, there's usually a reason why
we feel what we feel.
And, and so anger is an expression of an emotional that I'm,
I'm feeling angry, but it's helping the child open up
to figure out the why of it.
What is it that I'm actually feeling angry about?
So when your child feels angry, uh, your challenge is
to create an environment where they can give a voice
to the emotion, give a voice to the anger, so that
what you want them to do is be able
to express what they're experiencing.
No judgment, just an open dialogue of,
okay, this is what I'm feeling.
The reason why this is important is we often in our culture,
think that anger is bad.
Instead, we wanna teach our children
to understand it's an emotion to be learned from.
We understand it. So I'm feeling upset.
Okay, let's talk about that.
And, and not, instead of saying, Hey, you need to calm down,
my better response is, Hey, hey, something,
this is really important to you.
This matters to you. I can tell your energy's high.
Help me understand what you're experiencing.
Now notice a difference here.
I could shut the anger down because I'm older.
Hey, calm down over there.
Or I could invite an openness to say, Hey,
this is really important to you.
So our transition here is being able to keep them open
so we can get to what's driving the anger.
Anger is not the first emotion, it's the second emotion.
If we just focus on the misbehavior, we're missing the
underneath emotion that they're actually experiencing.
So that would be my biggest, uh, concern here,
is can we create an environment where this child is able
to talk about what they're angry about?
Well, it's not fair. Okay, well, it's not fair.
Help me understand. And now you're helping them give a voice
to it, which is teaching them how
to express it rather than just to be enraged.
Help the child open up rather than to shut them down.
And that's one way that you could help understand the anger
and help them understand their anger in an effective way.
