We have a question here that says, kids seem to be addicted to electronic devices to the point of letting their grades suffer. What do we say about that?
Well, I think the concept of addiction is real in our culture, but in the therapeutic world, we might say we’re dependent on it—it can influence us. The idea is that it takes a lot of energy. There’s a wonderful book by Anna Lemke called Dopamine Nation. She discusses the dopamine "hit"—that high—and how we often seek that thrill. Unfortunately, the internet provides the perfect storm to get that constant dopamine hit, much like a slot machine in a casino.
When children are consumed by their devices to the point where grades are affected, as this parent mentioned, one of the best things we can do is transition to alternative activities. This process will be gradual. It's important to communicate with your child, recognizing the issue as a potential problem. Children might not realize the impact because they’re so immersed in the activity.
Many games are intentionally designed to be addictive, giving constant dopamine hits. As a society, we need to be aware of this because it can consume our time and energy. As a parent, observe with loving kindness and talk with your child about your concerns. Help create positive alternative activities like going on a hike, visiting a swimming pool, or enjoying a family outing. Nature and exercise release positive chemicals in the brain and can act as healthy distractions.
The goal isn’t to completely eliminate screen time but to restrict it and intentionally replace it with positive activities. You could also require productive habits, like doing homework, before allowing screen time. Some children may resist these changes initially because their brains are accustomed to the energy flow from electronic devices. But by replacing screen time with engaging alternatives, like a hike or other social activities, you can create positive energy that the brain begins to follow.
What we’re looking for is a transition away from the same routines and helping children discover joys in other aspects of life. Ideas include going to the movies, bowling, hosting a pizza party, or having friends over for game nights. These activities encourage social interactions, which are vital for our well-being as a society. Increasing positive social interactions should be a priority for both parents and communities.
