Lesson Summary:
From ages three to four, children often show stronger emotions, frequent “no’s,” and growing defiance as they work to form their identity, which the therapist emphasizes should not be taken personally.
Dr. Kevin Skinner (LMFT, CSAT-S, EMDR), a licensed marriage and family therapist, explains that giving children an appropriate voice, staying flexible when possible, answering their many “why” questions, and recognizing fatigue or overwhelm helps support healthy emotional development without escalating power struggles.
By balancing limits with attunement and curiosity, caregivers help children build confidence, self awareness, and resilience.