How can we as parents create emotionally safe rooms?
Dr. Skinner explains that parents can intentionally designate a specific space in the home to serve as a calming, emotionally safe place. This room is meant to be a refuge—a space that promotes peace, comfort, and regulation rather than stimulation or distraction.
He encourages parents to think carefully about the intent behind the space. The goal is to create an environment that feels safe and grounding. This might include calming music, books, or simple décor, while removing items like televisions or electronic devices that can increase stimulation.
Dr. Skinner gives an example of a front room in a home that does not include a TV, but instead features calming images and serves as a place for family connection and conversation. The room’s purpose is clear and consistent: it is a place for learning, reflection, and meaningful interaction.
He emphasizes the importance of being intentional about what is included in the room and educating the entire family about its purpose. Everyone should understand that this space is available when they need to step away, calm down, or feel emotionally safe.
By clearly defining the room’s role and setting shared expectations, parents can create an environment that supports emotional regulation and connection for every family member.
