How Do I Help My Child Deal With Bullies at School?

how do I help my child deal with bullies at school? And, um, would you, would you mind addressing that? Yeah. So first of all, that is one of the biggest challenges that we have in our school system today. Some schools are better than others. Uh, but, but again, recently we were talking with the school principal, uh, in one of the interviews that I was doing, just trying to understand what it's like, and, and it was a question, right? How do we help children who have been bullied? My suggestion in all truth is you need a team approach. This isn't just one parent and child going against bullies in the school. This is trying to create a cultural change in the schools. And so it's appropriate to talk. If your child may not want you to talk with the principal, to talk with the teacher, to talk with the school counselor, you still need to, as a parent, you still need to communicate if they're right. You want, they need to know that you're on their teeth. Now, they may say, but it will only make matters worse. So as a parent, you may have that conversation independent, but there needs to be a conversation. Behaviors of bullying are not appropriate. And, and, and if you're, if your child's getting bullied, getting them protection, getting them to be taken care of, uh, so what they're experiencing is not continuing. Uh, it needs to stop. If you don't feel safe, you won't continue your mental health development, your physical health development, your, your schooling development. You, you, you need a safe environment. So, again, if it, if it you talk with the school and nothing changes, then you might create a shift where you're having that child do classes online to, to, and I know that's avoidance. But if you're going into the school and you're, and you're willing to have those conversations and nothing changes, then you need to create a change so your child feels safe. And I know that may not be easy to do, but we need to also teach a social approach. And there is a wonderful video of, and I think that schools are striving to get better at this because schools understand. I mean, if you sat in my office, I could tell you over and over and over again, the people who come to my office will tell me stories of being bullied. It is damaging, especially when you're getting social, um, experiences where you're being put down, ridiculed, made fun of, bullied. Um, it needs to be addressed. And we need to be aggressive, and we need to be open and not afraid to talk about it. So if I find out that my child's being bullied, I'm gonna be open. I'm gonna talk with the teacher, or I'm gonna talk with the administration, I'm gonna talk to the school counselor. I'm gonna get guidance in how to best approach this. Uh, I don't know how as a parent to do this. What have you done? They've deal with this all the time. How do I deal with this? What are the best ways to deal with this? But, uh, silence is actually making it worse. And I think far too many people are, I'm afraid to make it worse. Please don't, uh, the entire community should be engaged in this. Every community should say, this is not acceptable. This is simply not acceptable in our community. It's not. It's too damaging.