Such an important question today.
So thanks to that parent for asking.
And because, uh, we live in this society
where we're seeing more anxiety
and depression, we're also seeing more, um,
suicide attempts, and we're seeing an increase in suicide
ideation, meaning I'm thinking about it.
So part of this is I'm in emotional pain
or emotional distress, and I don't know what to do with it.
And so one of the challenges that we want
to help our children confront are,
is these emotions that they're having.
We already know that during the adolescent years, they be,
their emotions are, are more intense.
They spike. But we also know,
and this is something that we've done some research on
and realize that many people who attempt
or complete suicide do it impulsively.
And in an emotionally distressing time,
literally is less than 24 hours
and often within an hour of a distressing event,
they are not only contemplating,
but in some cases they've completed the act of suicide.
And, and so what that really means is we need
to teach our children earlier how to deal
with difficult emotions.
And, and, and also to teach them that it's always okay
to come with us, whatever the problem may be.
So they know that we are safe, they're never alone.
And that if we teach them how to deal
with difficult emotions, we can get through hard times.
We're teaching resiliency,
resiliency, resiliency, resiliency.
We can do hard things, which means
that we have hard conversations, which means
that we give them the skills and the tools to deal with
and regulate difficult emotions.
And then when it comes to a peer who's completed suicide or,
or has attempted, then we can have this open conversation.
That conversation would be like,
what do you feel like was going through their mind?
What, what do you think they were experiencing?
If you ever had that situation?
Now I'm actually mentally rehearsing what they could do.
So they have a strategy.
If they ever feel that way,
it's called mental rehearsal.
It's very effective because we're helping them.
We're not afraid of this conversation.
We should never be afraid of talking about suicide.
If anything, we should be comfortable
and open about it so our children realize that we're open,
we're gonna, we can talk about this.
And because sometimes they think, oh, my mom
and dad will wanna talk about this, or they'll judge me, or,
or, or, and if we're bringing it up
and we're talking about it, then they're like, okay,
I was feeling this way, or I had these thoughts.
And it's kind of strange. Do you know most of us,
if I asked us to raise our hands,
I've done this in various different settings,
but if I raise my hand
and say, okay, how many
of us have actually had suicidal thoughts?
Do you know over half of us would probably raise our hands?
I have. I'm always curious.
That's a fascinating thought.
Where does that one come from?
And it's normal to have those types of thoughts.
Now, what do I do with it? It's a different scenario.
But if I judge it,
and if there's something wrong with me,
maybe I'm gonna do this, it can create more anxiety,
which ultimately then can grow.
But the moment we say, this is normal,
we have these kind of thoughts.
And if you have them and come talk with us.
Now, it's a safe environment where we have open dialogue.
There aren't concerns about being judged, excuse me.
But it's an open environment
where we aren't afraid to share.