Our 15.5 year old son has locked himself in his room for the past 6 months. He comes down to get food only if I (his mother) am not around and he only eats in his room. He locks his bedroom door and will not anyone in. He will not talk to me but will talk to his father and brother, but still only a little bit. He has punched holes in his walls. He has failed some of his classes. He will not talk to a therapist, though my husband has tried to get him to. What can we do?

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My daughter is 13, was bullied at school and has become extremely disengaged. She is almost always alone in her room. After weeks of working with the school on a plan to ease her back in, she agreed to try going back to school for 2.5 hours. After I dropped her off, and made sure she would be okay, and she had a teacher supporting her, she ran away from school and called me. I wasn’t angry. We talked and she knows we are there for her. But I’m broken. What are some steps that we can take to help her heal so she can return to school and other activities she used to enjoy?


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