Next question: What are some signs that my children may need more of my time?
Usually, it may appear as neediness. They might be calling, “Mom, mom,” or “Dad, dad,” pulling on your leg, constantly seeking attention. In other cases, it might look like they’re pulling away, which can mean they don’t feel like you’re available, so they stop turning to you.
This is a hard question. I want to say, as a parent, the fact that you’re even asking it takes a lot of courage. It shows you care and are concerned—so I’d lean into that. If you're seeing signs, I’d recommend talking openly with your child. You could say, “I’ve been thinking about how busy we’ve been and how little time we’ve spent together. I’d love to change that. Can we plan to do something together?”
Turn that concern into connection. Suggest doing something simple and meaningful—get an ice cream cone, go to the park, ride bikes, anything together. That kind of intentional time is powerful.
Rather than guessing if something’s wrong, I’d be direct. I grew up on a farm—we’d take the bull by the horns. That’s how I’d handle this one. Be proactive and address it with love and presence.
