Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Child
The session “Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Child,” with insights from Dr. Kevin Skinner and Dr. DeVon Mills, focuses on equipping parents with tools to support their LGBTQ+ adolescents. Emphasizing understanding, open communication, and creating a loving environment, the session highlights the importance of validating a child’s feelings and fostering a safe space for honest dialogue.
Dr. Skinner and Dr. Mills, both seasoned experts in therapy and education, guide parents through strategies for offering unconditional love, navigating initial conversations, and addressing challenges. The session is designed to strengthen parent-child relationships and support the mental well-being of LGBTQ+ youth.
Dr. Skinner and Dr. Mills, both seasoned experts in therapy and education, guide parents through strategies for offering unconditional love, navigating initial conversations, and addressing challenges. The session is designed to strengthen parent-child relationships and support the mental well-being of LGBTQ+ youth.
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Key Takeaways
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First Response Matters
When your child comes out, the first five minutes set the tone. Express unconditional love and acknowledge their courage.
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Open Communication
Encourage open and honest conversations. Listen without judgment to keep the communication lines strong and supportive.
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Be Curious, Not Investigative
Approach discussions with curiosity, not as an investigation. Ask your child to share their journey and experiences.
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It’s Okay to Have a Do-Over
If the initial conversation doesn’t go well, apologize, ask for a do-over, and emphasize your ongoing support.
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Validate Feelings
Acknowledge and validate your child's emotions. This strengthens their self-worth and mental well-being.
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Overcome Initial Challenges
Personal beliefs or discomfort might make supporting your LGBTQ+ child challenging, but empathy and education can help.
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Normalize the Awkwardness
Acknowledge that discussing sexuality can be uncomfortable. This can help create a safe space for open communication.
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Provide Unconditional Love
Reassure your child of your love and make sure they know they are always safe and accepted in your family.
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Support Reduces Risk
LGBTQ+ youth with strong family support are at a lower risk for mental health issues and suicide. Support and acceptance are crucial.
What Parents and Caregivers Should Know About LQBTQ+ Youth
- The Impact of Parental Support on Mental Health
LGBTQ+ youth face higher risks of mental health challenges, including depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, often due to societal stigma and discrimination. Parental support is crucial in mitigating these risks. Research shows that LGBTQ+ youth who feel supported by their families are less likely to attempt suicide and experience severe mental health issues. Providing an affirming and accepting home environment, where the child’s identity is respected and valued, can significantly improve their overall well-being and self-esteem. - The Importance of First Responses
The initial reaction when a child comes out as LGBTQ+ can have long-lasting effects on their mental and emotional health. The first few minutes after disclosure are critical; expressing love, support, and understanding during this time sets the tone for future interactions.
A positive first response builds trust and encourages open communication, helping the child feel safe and accepted. Conversely, a negative or dismissive reaction can lead to feelings of rejection and may strain the parent-child relationship. - The Power of Language in Shaping Experiences
Language plays a powerful role in shaping the experiences of LGBTQ+ youth. Negative language, whether direct or overheard, can contribute to feelings of distress and isolation. LGBTQ+ youth frequently encounter derogatory comments about their identities, which can discourage them from sharing their experiences and weaken their relationship with their parents.
Being mindful of the words used, and striving to create a supportive and non-judgmental environment, is essential in helping LGBTQ+ youth feel valued and understood. This supportive language fosters an atmosphere where open dialogue is encouraged, strengthening the family bond.
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