Our next question is from a dad who has a 3-year-old daughter and feels the need to teach her about protecting herself and her privacy areas. This is his first daughter, and he’s unsure how to proceed.
First, it’s important to recognize that a 3-year-old likely won’t understand much about private parts or protection. At this age, the focus should be on teaching healthy touch and explaining basic do’s and don’ts in a way they can understand.
As a father, I’m really impressed by your concern for your daughter’s safety. It’s a process that takes time—it’s not a one-time conversation. Initially, you can help them understand the importance of safe spaces and good friendships. As your child matures, ongoing conversations about appropriate and inappropriate touch are important.
You can emphasize that the body is sacred and beautiful, and how we protect it. As a parent, it’s also important to create an open environment where your child feels comfortable coming to you with questions about their body, especially as they approach puberty.
Young children, especially as they begin to experience changes, can be confused about what’s happening to their bodies. Sometimes they don’t learn about it from their parents, which is why it’s crucial for us as parents to educate our kids early on, even about sensitive topics like body privacy and healthy sexuality.
Many children, even at a young age, may explore their bodies out of curiosity. This is normal, and parents shouldn’t panic or assume abuse. It’s an opportunity to have an age-appropriate conversation about the body, sensations, and privacy.
Creating an open, shame-free environment where your child feels comfortable talking about their body is key. Children should learn that their bodies are beautiful and that sexuality is a natural, healthy part of being human. Parents who provide this foundation help their children develop a positive view of their bodies and protect them from harmful, outside influences.
As a parent, it’s your responsibility to guide your child through understanding these concepts in a healthy, constructive way.
