Here's another question.
How do we help our child transition?
High school is ending and she's not going to college.
I want her to transition to be an adult,
but I don't wanna cut her off.
Um, but should I? My parent did.
Um, yeah, so obviously you don't wanna be your parent.
That's what I hear in that statement, right?
My parents did. I don't want to.
But what message do you want your child to learn?
Okay, so they're not going to be going to college.
What are they going to be doing?
Now, this is a really important question.
What is your child going to be doing?
Because there needs to be some activity,
something that they're engaged in.
Otherwise, our child graduates
and then they take a year off to play with—
Life's generally not that way.
So there needs to be something,
I'm gonna call it some productivity,
some learning, some growth, a job,
something to help them take that next step away from high school
and transition into that next phase of their life.
So I would wanna brainstorm: What are your plans?
And again, getting a job, having some type
of business, opportunities, working—
again, these are important things.
Because if we just give our children things
without helping them develop social skills,
helping them develop job skills and earning potential,
then really what we're doing is we're enabling them
to not learn, to not grow.
And that's not what we wanna do.
We want our children to develop skills—lifelong skills,
social skills, relationship skills—
and that often happens in the workforce,
in college situations, through learning.
So I would want to have your child talk through
with you their plan.
And I might even put it in their shoes.
Like, look, I know you're graduating.
I'd love to hear what your plan is
as you get ready to graduate and transition
into the next phase of your life.
What does that look like for you?
Where do you wanna be in a year?
Where do you wanna be in three years?
Where do you wanna be in five years?
You're helping them forecast,
you're helping them look to the future.
You're looking at a plan of action.
So they're gonna then teach you:
Here's what my next step of my life is.
